Tuesday, 17 September 2013
Homophobia on my Doorstep
So yesterday (actually two days ago, I was angry that I choose to postpone publishing until I re-read it in a calm state of mind) was a purely horrible day! There was yet another tragedy in my home town causing a young man to drown in the Avoca river. Not so long ago an even younger man had an accident resulting in the same, I knew the chap, not well but he was my brothers best friend and him and his friend/cousins (obviously my cousins too) were devastated and finally the town has rose up to demand safety barriers be erected along the quays where these accidents keep occurring and a petition is floating around.
A teenage girl called to my door and asked if I'd sign it and of course, I agreed and called my fiancée so she could sign too. A car passing our house slowed and someone inside yelled "don't go in there, there's lesbians in there".
Now most people will say "oh ignore them, they're just shitheads" etcetera, etcetera... Well, no. It's not just that easy, we were stood inside our own home! And we still had to face bigotry and insult? People talking about us like we have a disease that can be caught? Don't tell me to "ignore" it or not to let it get to me, the moment I heard it, it got to me. We were both tittering between angry and upset for the rest of the evening. Resorting to mini-rants on Facebook, where the most well meaning of people (my mom, almost-mom-in-law and two very supportive members of the LGBT community and my fiancées friend)tried to comfort us.
I don't care if speaking ill of your home town is "Politically Incorrect" or not. Arklow likes to pretend it's "with the times" or "accepting" whatever bullshit they want to call basic human kindness these days. It's really not. Sure, lesbians don't have it as bad here... It's unlikely (not impossible, because its happened to me) you'll be physically assaulted because your a gay woman, for all the wrong reasons might I add. Gay men.... Well verbal and physical attacks are fairly common.
I won't presume to speak for the entire gay community locally. But I do have this to say to the bigots and so-called "Christians" (I use quotations because I don't believe people that take away another humans basic rights are real Christians, I have many Christian friends and family that love me the way I am, people like that are real Christians)
So here's to all you bigoted assholes out there!!!
Fuck you and your "tolerance".... I don't want to be "tolerated" I want to live my life, marry the woman I adore and raise my family. If you don't like it, ignore me, I don't care, I don't know you. I don't want to. Don't scream shit at me from a car because you're to cowardly to say it directly to me. Don't ogle at me when I hug or kiss my girlfriend in a bar, my relationship isn't a spectacle for your entertainment. Don't walk up to me in a bar and tell me how "ok you are" with the fact I'm gay, or how brave we are for not being afraid to be "together" in public. Because quite frankly it's none of your god damn business!! Please just act like I don't exist, because that what I want to do with people like you. But that's pretty difficult when you approach me, insult me and scream shit at me from your car!
On top of this my four year old started throwing up and his asthma was acting up, so this resulted in a trip the late night doctor. So yay! Happy, happy Sunday!!
On the plus side I feel better after venting!! I'm not going to promote this post because it really is just a rant and I'm sure in my anger and upset I've managed to unintentionally insult someone.